Let’s be real—scroll through TikTok tarot readings, and you’ll see a common theme: Is he thinking about me? Is he cheating? Will he call? It’s natural to seek clarity, but here’s the truth—real love isn’t about waiting for breadcrumbs. It’s about stepping into your power and attracting relationships that honour and uplift you.

If you’re tired of obsessing over someone’s feelings and ready to reclaim your worth, let’s talk about how to shift your energy from chasing love to becoming the magnet for the love you truly deserve.

1. Flip the Script: Love Starts With You

Instead of asking, Does he like me? try asking, Do I like him?

Love isn’t about being chosen—it’s about choosing. When you centre your own needs, values and desires, you naturally attract people who respect and align with you.

Empowering Journal Prompt:

  • What qualities make me feel safe, valued and seen in a relationship?
  • Where in my life am I accepting the bare minimum instead of true emotional fulfilment?

💡 Crystal Companion: Rose Quartz for self-love and Rhodonite for emotional healing. Carry them daily as reminders of your worth.

2. Stop Asking, ‘Is He Thinking About Me?’ and Start Asking, ‘What Do I Think About Myself?’

When you focus all your energy on whether someone is thinking about you, you give them power over your emotions. Shift the focus inward—how do you feel about yourself?

Try This: Instead of checking your phone for a text, write yourself a love note. List 5 things that make you an incredible person to be in a relationship with.

💡 Tarot Insight: Pull The Empress or The Queen of Wands when doing self-reflective tarot readings. These cards remind you of your power, confidence and worth.

3. Build a Life So Fulfilling, Love Becomes a Bonus

The most magnetic energy is someone who is fully in love with their own life. What lights you up? What are your passions? What dreams have you put on hold while waiting for love?

Actionable Steps:

  • Take yourself on a solo date—museum, coffee shop, bookstore, whatever makes you happy.
  • Start a new hobby or revisit an old passion you’ve neglected.
  • Surround yourself with people who inspire, challenge and support you.

💡 Mantra: “I am whole and complete on my own. Love that aligns with me flows effortlessly into my life.”

4. Shift From ‘Will He Call?’ to ‘Who Do I Allow in My Energy?’

Instead of waiting for someone to decide if they want you, step into your own power—who do you want in your energy? The right person will show up without you having to chase them.

Energy Reset Exercise:

  • Write down the names of past partners or situationships where you felt drained or undervalued.
  • Next to each name, write how you allowed them to treat you and what you would do differently now.
  • Burn the list or rip it up—release that energy and step into your new standard.

💡 Crystal Companion: Black Tourmaline to protect your energy and Labradorite for attracting aligned connections.

5. Love is an Energy—Match It, Don’t Chase It

Love isn’t something you chase; it’s an energy you align with. When you embody love, confidence and self-worth, the right relationships naturally gravitate toward you.

Daily Practices to Align with Love:

  • Speak to yourself the way you’d want a partner to speak to you.
  • Set boundaries that protect your peace.
  • Celebrate your wins, big or small.

💡 Tarot Insight: Pull The Lovers when meditating on what love truly looks like for you—this isn’t just about romance, but deep, soul-aligned connection.

Final Thought: You Are the Prize

The right person won’t make you question your worth or wonder if they’re coming back. They’ll show up, consistently and fully, because they see you.

Until then, focus on the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself. Love will find you when you’ve built something so incredible that the right person won’t be able to resist joining your journey.

💡 Want deeper guidance? Book a self-empowerment tarot reading with Glow by Amber and step into your highest love energy today!